James M. Bonnar became an eye donor upon his passing on July 25, 2004. Mr. Bonnar was born in St. Catharines, Ontario, and later moved to the United States, earning a degree at Buffalo State College and working at Multisorb Technologies and at Adelphia.
This remembrance was shared by his wife, Mary Ellen Bonnar.
My husband Jim was such a wonderful son, husband, father and friend. Although we never had that conversation about organ donation, I knew that is what he would have wanted. He was a young, healthy and handsome man. The only good that came out of his sudden and untimely death was knowing that others would get a chance to see and do things they couldn't have done otherwise. Jim would have wanted that.
My Jim was one of the nicest people you could ever have met. He so loved his family more than anything else in the world. He cherished our baby boy, who was 1 at the time and is 11 today and doted on him always. He would do anything for his family and was a loving and caring person. The hardest thing for me is that our son would have to grow up without his father. I know that Jim is with us in spirit and is guiding us always.
Jim and I shared a birthday. We met on our birthday so that is a very special day for me. On his birthday and anniversary of his passing, I donate blood in his memory and honor. I want to do something good because he was such a good person. I want to pay it forward, so to speak. If there is one thing I learned from losing my husband, it is that people are basically good and in the face of tragedy people are there for you when you need it most. I couldn't have survived without the help of my awesome family.
Jim was a huge Bills fan! He was a season ticket holder for over 10 years and he went to one of the Super Bowls as well. He loved football, golf and hockey. I don't know, however, if he would be too happy that his son is a Bruins fan and not a Bills fan!
The grief of losing my best friend and partner in life never goes away. I have just learned to cope as time goes on. I know that is what he would have wanted. I am a better person for having known him.